Let me tell you a story of how a simple question can lead to an extraordinary idea.
— Stella Torres (@TheStellaTorres) June 8, 2017
After explaining the term M/M to Migs, he gave me an answer:
I think I’d go for Fred! His first performance was awesome and unique haha!
— Miguel Almendras (@Migs_Almendras) June 8, 2017
Then the conversation took a surprising turn:
Hahaha! I’d be honored.:)) 👍🏻
— Fred Lo (@MrFredLaw) June 8, 2017
I wasn’t thinking about it then, but somehow this moment took on a life of its own. Finally, the guys’ schedules converged, and the shoot finally came into fruition.
Voila: #Frigs, the first male/male collaboration to be featured on a (future) #romanceclass cover.
In a way, I take some credit in bringing the guys together, because I asked the question (which turned out to be the very question that was on everyone else’s minds, haha). But it got me thinking about something else.
When I was in high school, there was this guy (disclaimer: we’re not particularly close) who was a talented musician. He was older than me, but his Filipino class was in the same room as mine, so I got to see some of his work on the classroom walls. One of his assignments was to come up with a poster advertising (I think) where he would be in ten years or so, and the poster had to be completely in Filipino. So he came up with a poster promoting his konsiyerto with Lea Salonga. He even put the name “Maestro” in front of his, which I took was his way of promoting himself as a musical director rather than the star on the front lines. That poster lived in my mind for the longest time.
Twenty years later, I come across some press materials for musical performances featuring the same guy as a musical director. Yes, he’s a full fledged Maestro now, and very much sought-after in the business. And while I’m not sure if he got to work with Ms. Lea herself, he plays regular gigs with a lot of musical-theater actors, which makes me so happy because he’s finally living the dream.
Where’s the lesson in all of this, you say?
The thing is, between #Frigs, the Maestro, and the current direction of my writing career, I’d been thinking a lot about how I’d managed to manifest my own destiny. Before I left UP I was already having second thoughts about the PhD program and my future as an academic; when the time came for me to leave, I didn’t even cry about not being able to continue with my degree. And now that I’m seeing signs of how powerful my ideas are, I’ve started to rethink the way that I frame my own thoughts, too. What are the things that bring me joy? What is keeping me from getting what I want, and how do I learn to let go of them?
Maybe there is power in all of this positive thinking, after all.
At first it was hard for me to believe, since I usually have a hard time taking this advice; as someone who has been battling depression for years, it’s not enough for me to think positively most of the time. But I’m slowly coming to terms with the power of my own thoughts, and that even though I have my moments when I’m hopeless, I still look forward to the moment when I will transcend the darkness and find joy in life again. After all, it takes an intimate knowledge of the darkness to know that light will find its way through eventually.
So that’s my thing now. I’m going to start dreaming big–but more than that, I will also see to it that my thoughts are in sync with my dreams. I will build my arsenal. I will have a plan. I will welcome grace and gratitude into my heart.
It’s about time I made more things happen. I have faith in this.