At the beginning of my career, I was a total wimp when it came to sex scenes. Sure, I had a steady reading diet of steamy novels on my Kindle, but I was scared of writing about the actual act. I can attribute this to my insecurities over being a romance writer in a religious family, but with every book and manuscript that I’ve written, I got over my squeamishness and started easing myself into writing the steamy stuff.
– Take a break. You will know if a certain love scene is effective when you find yourself getting turned on by what you write. If this happens, put the manuscript down and have a drink to center yourself. Make sure that the drink is strong enough to rein in your feels, though, so you won’t turn into a pile of mush that can’t revise your own work.
– Take another break. Running your manuscript through diagnostics can be very tiring. Have another drink and take some time to recover first.